CHALENGE ONE - LET’S TALK

Let’s Talk (Positive and Honest Talking & Sharing is fantastic for our Mental Health)


Beautifully simple - just pick someone you haven’t spoken to for a while but has been a good friend in the past and give them a call…. 


Just take a moment to think - is there anyone you have sort of lost touch with but would really like to still be talking to, and who you think would appreciate your call?  It could be an old school friend, an ex neighbour even a family member.  We loose touch for all kinds of reasons but the range and richness of our connections and friendships in this world helps to keep us grounded and connected.  It is good for our wellbeing and and in reaching out to others we are offering them our support and kindness too.


Sometimes you might feel a little awkward.  Perhaps it is a very long time since you spoke, months and sometimes years can pass and that can feel like a chasm has opened up.  But we know from experience that this time can simply melt away when we hear from someone we like or even love.  We don’t care about the days that have passed between us, we care about the reconnection we are making.  At a practical level you can help relieve any tension by thinking about a simple opening question and maybe two or three things you would like to share with the other person.


“Hi, its xxxx, I was just thinking about you, how long it is since we last spoke and how I’d love to know how you are.  How have you been, what’s been going on for you?”


You don’t have to talk for long, this is about re-connecting, now you are chatting again you can arrange another call or join up on Facebook or WhatsApp or even send a lovely old style letter!


What if they aren’t there?

If you get a message service, don’t lose heart, leave a short message and say you’ll call back 

“Hi, it’s xxx xx, it’s been a while since we spoke and I was thinking of you and decided to call, I’ll ring back or you can call me if you get chance”

  

What if the number doesn’t work anymore?


If you call and the number is no longer recognised you might feel disappointed or sad.  You can try some other ways to get in touch though, reach out to other people you know who know them, and see if you can get their new details.  You can search on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram?  Of if you have their last address you could send a letter or card.


But if that connection is lost can we encourage you to think of someone else and give them a go?


A group of friends and family to offer you support, advice, laughter makes all the difference in a life, and can be the best thing if you are a little down or struggling. And you can be that same support to others, helping them through the tough times, be there, listening and offering your kindness.

  

Now here’s the tough one

What if when you think about it, there isn’t anyone you can or want to reach out to.  What if you have very few, or even no friends right now.   Sadly, because of the way our society has come to operate, many people feel alone or isolated and many people report a lack of friends in their lives.  This is so difficult for any of us, we are social creatures and we want and need friends and networks to get us through and keep our spirits up.


  

Call us!

So if you can’t think of anyone to call, can you please call us.  We have people who would like to share their time with you and be your friend and we think you would be great at being a friend and maybe offering your time to someone else once you’re in the swing of things.


If you want to, please post on our Facebook page to say who you spoke to and how it went


Now the final bit of the challenge is that if you have enjoyed the process and can afford it (please don’t give us money that you need for other things) then please donate via our Virgin Moneypage to help us keep reaching out and building a more connected, caring, creative and kind world for us all. 


Ok, well that’s us for today - See you tomorrow…..


Please let us know if there is anything you would like us to cover in future blog posts, but most of all Stay Safe Well, Creative, Connected and KIND!


EXTRA NOTE


Please don’t go out unless absolutely necessary (i.e. for food basics), keep a safe distance (2 meters) from the other people around (more if someone is running or cycling). Keep smiling, waving and talking. Wash hands and avoid touching faces when out and about. 


Anything we can do to stop and slow the virus is keeping more of us safe and literally saving lives. 


If you have symptoms, stay inside and contact 111 or the website to get more advice.


If you have any other health concerns please do call your doctors, they are still open and you are not “bothering” them if you need to speak about something going on for you right now.   COVID-19 is a terrible thing but other health problems are also a priority - call your GP and check it out!

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