Dealing with Disappointment

Topic for Today - Dealing with Disappointment


This may seem like an odd topic but a particularly sad part of the lock down for some, is the disappointment of having to spend important dates or events without special friends or family, or not being able to do the things you enjoy most.


A new baby born, a special birthday, a 50th Wedding anniversary….


It can be hard to explain to little ones why they can’t have a party with their friends or to someone with dementia why they can’t have visitors.


So here are our suggestions for dealing with this disappointment


Firstly - its ok to feel sad and to feel disappointment, it’s completely natural.  Don’t worry if you shed a tear, other people are doing exactly the same.  If there is someone close who you can and want to hug, then do.  Hugs are comforting and genuinely make us feel better.  You can even try hugging yourself - strange I know, but this also activates a sense of comfort in us that can be beneficial (give it a try).


Second - lets get creative, if you can’t be there in person you might be able to skype, facetime or zoom a party or at least call and chat to bridge the gap.  You can also do things inside your house and garden - if there are a few of you at home you can still have a special tea or meal, you can organise an inside / yard or garden treasure hunt or stage your own inter house quiz!  We are planning a home based Easter Egg Hunt on Sunday and a few of us are decorating a tree in our street to welcome the Easter Bunny!


It might all seem a bit mad, but having a laugh and doing something to cheer up others can be a great way to cheer up yourself


Third - Plan for the things you will do to celebrate when the threat is over and we can safely come back out, a picnic, a special dinner, a street party!  Planning something lovely for the future can really help keep our spirits up and get us through some more difficult patches


Ok, well those are our thoughts for today, take care, stay safe, well, kind, creative and connected!


Don’t go out if we don’t absolutely need to (i.e. for food basics), keep a safe distance (2 meters) from the other people around us. Keep smiling, waving and talking. Wash hands and avoid touching faces when out and about. 


Anything we can do to stop and slow the virus is keeping more of us safe and literally saving lives. 


If you have symptoms, stay inside and contact 111 or the website to get more advice.


Look forward to speaking again soon (tomorrow we will be looking in more detail at reviewing our days and getting some stuff done during lock down)

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